If you’ve followed my blog for a while then you’ll know that back in February, my boyfriend and I moved in together and bought our lovely little nest. You can read my post “I’ve Flown The Nest” to see my feelings towards it then.
I thought I was someone who as long as I had a roof over my head and a cosy bed would be content. And don’t get me wrong I am so so grateful for the fact I have this but I’ve realised that your home environment and features about your home are so important for your overall happiness, wellbeing and relationship.
Our home would be a dream for many people. It’s in a lovely road, has gorgeous unique features, tons of storage, 3 bedrooms, a gorgeous kitchen, dining room and lounge and a good sized garden in the sun but we are moving! Why? Because we don’t like it! So there is a little bit more to it than that which I will explain later in the post but I’ve realised something that I’m so grateful for which is that both Jamie and I are very in tune with our feelings and sense of wellbeing and I know he might hate me for saying that but it’s true. We aren’t scared to say what is bothering us and then do something about it. We aren’t sit around and wait things out people we are DO it and CHANGE it people if things aren’t working. Which is why after only 9 months, our house is back on the market…
When living with your partner, so much of your time together is spent in the home. That environment is therefore so important to the relationship. It has to feel like home, it has to feel safe, you have to love your space and feel excited to return to it every night. There’s something about where we live at the moment that just doesn’t FEEL right for us. I would say it’s the “energy” but it’s basically down to lots of little things that don’t work for us as couple in that house. They might seem like petty things to some people but to myself and Jamie, our home should be our happy place and we want to create the best environment for our relationship.
When we went around searching for a new house, our first thought in mind was buying a new house by paying all we hand at one go would turn out to be a very bad move for us. Thus we took assistance from USDA home loans and got the place where we are going to begin the new journey of our, and as the company offered us a considerable amount of time to pay back the loan. Thus we could spend our days without any worries.
This house was never meant to be a long term thing but I never thought we’d be moving this quickly however I already feel so much happier and content knowing that we are on the search for our perfect home. We’ve both not felt the urge to design and make our house at the moment look pretty because I think deep down we knew this was on the cards.
Related: Why to learn more about NZ Van Lines before start moving?
Your home should feel your emotional and practical needs and the first thing we needed to do was figure out what those needs are for us.
Some things that are lacking in our home and what we need:
1. A pretty house from the outside
Again, not a thing that I thought would bother me until having my own place, but I need the outside of my house to be aesthetically pleasing and welcoming so that every time I drive or walk up to it, I feel happy and sense of pride.
2. Open plan
I am always in the kitchen or at dining table doing my work whilst Jamie is always in the lounge chilling out from a hard days work or watching the footy at the weekend. As our house at the moment is lots of separate rooms we feel like we are never together. I’m pottering around doing my own little thing or rushing around stressing out to get things done so I can chill with my boyfriend. Open plan is an absolute must for our lives together and also for inviting friends round which we love to do.
3. Natural light
The house has small windows and not a lot of natural light. I’ve realised how important natural light is for me emotionally (check out variety of windows at windowsdoorsmart.ca/). An abundance of natural light is what I’m after in our next home for boosting my energy, creating happiness, warmth and increased productivity.
Some other things include being able to have a big sofa to cuddle on, closer to the station and a nice space to invite friends and family over.
I’m excited for the future and will keep you updated! Is your home special to you and why? I’d love to know what the best thing about your home is in the comments below!
And, besides, with help us-mailing-change-of-address.com I will soon have a new address! So soon we can send post-cards to each other again!
Love, Lottie x