There’s something magical about the frost outside the windows, the bite in the wind and the wrapping up in a hundred layers! Yes it’s magical for about week and then I’m done. Don’t even get me started on snow, I’ve had my 10 minute snow storm for the year thanks very much. Please stay away! I do try to be positive but I just love the sun and feeling warm and I find it really hard to stay positive when my hands have frostbite, my umbrella has curled up like a dead spider and I’m constantly trying to find the most natural fake tan that makes me look like I’ve been on a winter break to the Maldives. If anyone wants to solve this problem and whisk me there then hi!
This is definitely the hardest time of year for me and can sometimes feel like a bit of a slog. Post Christmas, new year and my birthday but still so far from a Spring getaway, a long weekend and wearing cute denim shorts. End of January and February are filled with debating whether to stay in every night or go out and risk blue lips and a non existent blow dry in 2 minutes.
The magazines are flirting the idea that Spring is on the way with gorgeous mid length skirts and statement blouses that currently would be teamed with a huge warm jacket, woolly tights and a three time wrapped around snood! So what do we do? How do we get through to Spring!!
Well don’t fret, if you’re like me and find this time of year a bit of a struggle then I’m showing you three ways I’m getting through these next two months and then we can rely on the trees blossoming to cheer us up!
Here’s how I’m keeping spirits high until Spring…
Not Spreading Myself Too Thin
When I’m feeling a little blue, I can get sucked into to saying yes to everything in pursuit of trying to fill every bit of time with work and socialising. Yet looking at my diary and not seeing a free evening for weeks also fills me with dread. Leaving the house at 5:45am in the freezing cold darkness for a client or a workout and then facing delayed trains at 11pm after a non stop day followed by a launch event/cocktails with friends sounds exciting but results in not enough sleep and a constant snuffle!
It’s totally acceptable and definitely not boring to say no to something because you want a night in with a hot bubble bath and a good book. In fact this kind of self care is essential for me to be a good teacher, friend and all my other titles. I’m trying to limit myself to two week nights out and one weekend night out (including work and life events) for the next couple of months. I have a sprinkle of lovely work trips, events and my friends birthday nights out but other than that I’ll have my slippers on with a chai latte. You can still me a good person with a kind heart and say no.
Talk It Out
When I’m meant to be happy and positive but don’t feel it, it’s important for me to talk it out. I’m so lucky to have the most incredible support network of friends and family who are always there to listen. Me and my four best friends have such an open relationship with each other and we can tell if someone’s having an off day. We communicate every day, not just over whatsapp but by picking up the phone and talking things out or even dropping everything we are doing and being by each others side. It might be that someone’s having a crappy day but doesn’t really know why but just having someone listening even if your making no sense makes everything brighter. So next time your having crappy day, honestly pick up the phone even if you think they won’t understand or be able to help, just someone being there is honestly enough.
Feeling uncertain about my direction in life is one of my worst feelings although it’s completely normal and good for it to crop up every now and again to make me take a moment to check in and get organised. The main thing that makes me feel stressed and down aside from snow blizzards is feeling manic and unorganised. I think starting the year with a plan of action is so important. Of course with dashes of spontaneity and side steps but I like to start seeing how my year is unfolding at this time. When will I be away, when can I focus on a certain project, is there anything big I want to save for? Looking ahead to goals, reflecting on what might not have worked in the past, whilst staying in the moment day to day, is the key to feeling like I’m on the right path.
Plus London can still look pretty even when it’s cold! (shot taken 18/1/2017)
So when’s your urgh time of year and how do you get through it?
Love, Lottie x