I’ve realised recently that so many of us are craving time away from our phone. In the world we live in today our phones determine the way we live our lives and are vital if you have a business, are an entrepreneur or simply want to stay up to date with news. I would not have the career I have today if it wasn’t for my phone. However we are starting to have a love hate relationship and I want to find ways to continue to embrace the digital world without becoming addicted. To learn to love it and use it when necessary but then know when to be a human! Read on to find out what I’m doing to find that balance…
As there’s endless things we can do on our phones, we are becoming even more disconnected from the real world and out of tune with our bodies and our souls. I’ve been to events before and find that some people can’t even have conversations with me because their minds are too focused on something on their phone. I teach Pilates classes where people have their phones next to their mats. I understand this can sometimes be part of an influencers/bloggers job and I am guilty of it sometimes but it’s clear when someone’s not engaging with you and I think it’s time to find more balance.
Online engagement is all well and good and of course I’m all about it but not at the expense of human engagement! We are attached to our phones and it’s to time to find the happy medium.
When I am on my phone too much I feel like my brain goes mushy. As we juggle commitments and spend hours looking at a screen, I feel we are letting time past by without really stopping to ask ourselves if we are living the way we want to. Social media is huge part of my life and my career and I love love it! But how much is too much? When did it become so addictive?
It’s not just social media either it’s the fact we are accessible 24/7. I get emails at 11pm and 5am. I have numerous apps that I use daily and check daily. Twitter, Instagram, emails, Facebook, snapchat, online banking, Fitbit, my fitness pal, mind body online where I check my Pilates classes, notes, daily mail app. Remember the days when you could watch a full episode of Masterchef without having to rewind to see what happened because you were distracted by Instagram. It’s just too tempting to organise your life constantly too, I can be known to be booking in fitness classes in bed, updating my fitness pal on the sofa, tweeting as I walk! I am now a new user of snapchat and really enjoy it but already feel that addiction to snap every part of my day which is super frustrating to be honest!
How can I promote a balanced life and not even have a balanced relationship with my phone! Health and balance and happiness is everything to me! There needs to be balance here too! People are eager for no tech time but simply don’t know how to resist!
So yes I’ll always use my phone and I like getting emails done on the train and instagramming at peak hours to get inspired by the people I follow too. I tweet daily and sometimes I like to stay up late watching YouTube videos or scrolling through Facebook but I’m now implementing some tactics to find more of a happy balanced relationship with my phone. I know that I can still be just as influential on my online platforms and as productive with my inbox and apps if I set myself some guidelines. Here’s my steps to finding balance with your phone…
- When at a party, event, dinner or on holiday, put your phone away and engage in conversations, make it your aim to have a good time rather than get the perfect instagram shot. Sometimes it’s my job to get a nice instagram shot so I’ll do this when the time is right but if it’s a personal social occasion or a holiday, make it for you not for your followers! Take a quick pic if it’s beautiful or your food looks fab then put your phone away and have a fun!
- I’ve bought more notebooks! Okay so I am already obsessed with notebooks but I recently purchased a recipe book and a journal. My diary is not on my phone either it’s in a normal diary. Normal, don’t know how else to describe it other than paper diary, oh yes that’s what’s it’s called (example of brain mush) Now I know that’s not for everyone but I love writing and it allows me to look at something other than my phone for part of my day! My new recipe book will contain all my hand written recipes and ideas rather than using my notes and my journal is for the 10 minutes at the end of every day where I reflect on what went well, what could go better and general life.
- Train yourself to not take photos of EVERYTHING! That’s all for that one.
- Make sure the first thing and last thing you do every day is NOT looking at your phone, even if it’s for 10 minutes. Do 10 minutes of stretching or make a tea before you unlock! Once you’ve unlocked for the first time that day, you are hooked! You’ll find that those 10 minutes will soon become your favourite part of your day and might even become 20 minutes.
- Try and leave your phone at home for one outing during the weekend. If I don’t desperately need my phone at the weekend for example when I go for a tea round my mums or go for a long walk, I’m going to try and leave my phone at home. The need to have our phone’s constantly attached to us is crazy. By literally creating physical distance between my phone and I, I feel like we’ll both be less needy of each other.
- I have turned off all notifications on my phone expect for text messages and phone calls. This means I have to go into all my social media apps and mail to see if I have any notifications so as I sit here typing this blog post, my phone is next to me but it’s silent as a mouse and when I am done I will check it. The times of a blog post taking me 4 hours instead of 1 because of my phone constantly distracting me are long gone.
Some of you might be reading this and thinking gosh I’m not that addicted and that’s great- tell us your secret but I know that personally I love my phone and want to use it as a tool to reach a wider audience, to connect with my friends on whatsapp, to create inspiring Pinterest boards, to read my favourite blogs on the go but I don’t want to get to the point where I hate it, I can’t remember what day it is and have a photo album full of every meal I’ve ever had in my life. Boring!
If this post resonates with you, please leave a comment and let me know what you do to find balance too or maybe you just simply find it hard to resist. Maybe you’re going to try these little tips too. I know you probably need your phone or at least a laptop to connect with me and to read this post and that’s the thing, this post isn’t about never using your phone, just use it wisely like for sharing this post so more people can read it and then get off it! 😉
Love Lottie x