Wellbeing Wednesdays: Stress Less

I thought I’d follow some of my own advice and have a little more structure to my blog. I am going to aim to have a regular ‘wellbeing wednesday’ post, a regular ‘foodie friday’ post and then my sunday video each week. I want to be honest with you and admit that this may not happen every week and of course I will sometimes have other reviews/meal plan posts too but I feel like my blog and I will get along much better with some structure and routine- so here we go with the first Wellbeing Wednesday!

Stress Less

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We can all be a lit touchy sometimes. It’s okay, we are only human and can’t be calm and have it all together 24/7 but being stressed out isn’t fun. To be honest, I do feel quite lucky that I don’t lead a stressful life and am a pretty stress free person but I know that a lot of people suffer from stress and everyone’s different! It could be that you are stressed because of a life changing nightmare or it could be that you are stressed due to not having a snack!

Being stress free is component of good health and balance in your life- that’s what I’m all about!

I believe that stress can lead to illness, destruct relationships, make you gain weight and just generally make you feel a bit AHHHHH! So let’s get stress free, here’s my top tips…

How to Get Back On Track

I feel like 30 hour days would be perfect. An extra hour to workout, an hour to meditate and practice mindfulness, an hour to read, an hour to clean, an hour to call friends and family and an extra hour in bed! Who’s in charge of hours in the day? Can we have a word please?

Summer so far has been my busiest and best yet! I’ve been working more than ever but also having lots of fun. However, this leads to two things that can stress me out a little. 1. Not finding time to workout, meditate, rest. 2. My house getting messy, washing piling up.

I’m know I’m not speaking for myself. I really feel at the moment everyone around me is the same. From my mum to my clients to people on social media! Perhaps we take on a little too much sometimes and our intentions are to still fit in time for ourselves but in my case in can literally seem impossible. This has really been especially hard the last two weeks and I wanted to just concentrate this blog post on body shape/weight and emotions relating to that topic.

Lots of factors come into making me very aware of my body shape/weight. From dancing since the age of 5 and then going into a Pilates instructor career, I’ve pretty much had to be conscious of my body every single day. I’ve probably worn a leotard, leggings or crop top nearly every day of my life and I’ve probably had to stand in front of a mirror in this attire almost every day of my life. This isn’t a negative but it does make you very aware when you put an extra few lbs or when you don’t train and notice the shape of your legs change.

So the last couple of weeks, I’ve not really worked out properly and I’ve drank alcohol at the weekends and I’ve gone out for lots of meals and had dessert. In the week I’ve then tried to get back on track but ended up just eating LOTS of healthy food- I’m talking a few too many raw nut bars a day! I know I’ve put on a little weight and I know I’m not as lean or toned as I was at the start of summer but that’s okay! I’m still in good shape and slim. But it’s difficult to think like that- my mind likes to go into panic and beat myself up mode. Now I know that is only going to make things worse.

So what to do when you’ve perhaps come out of your normal healthy routine for a bit, maybe because of a summer holiday where there’s all inclusive unlimited food and cocktails or maybe just from being super busy and not being able to workout. Here’s what I’ve done this week to try and get myself back on track…

The Secret to Making Better Decisions

I have always been the most indecisive person ever! When I was younger, I’d make my decisions based on my mum’s advice as I felt like that would always be the best way. I guess I then began to rely on trusting someone else’s decisions rather than my own for a fear of making the wrong choice.

As I got older, I had to start making decisions for myself but boy that was hard even when it came to deciding whether to go out or stay in, I’d literally get myself in such a state. Even the other day, I wasn’t sure whether to go to a yoga class or stay at home and get jobs done but that’s when I used my secret 😉 As I now live with my boyfriend, it’s him that has to put up with me pestering him to help me make a decision. “But what do yoooou think I should do?”, it’s like I don’t want that pressure but Jamie is just as bad as me when it comes to decision making and can honestly say I’ve definitely improved since moving out.

I’m sure I’m not the only one that goes through some torturous minutes, hours, days trying to make a decision. We propel ourselves into the future, fearing that we will regret the choice we made and then beat ourselves up about it. This is all down to the mind being so busy and cloudy. Whether it be a decision to do with a relationship, job, time management, finance or simply what to eat for dinner- we think too much! No one can predict the future!

At the end of the day, you will make a choice and that choice is the right one. It comes down to trusting the present moment and the fact is, where you are right now is exactly where you should be! Every decision you’ve made in your life previous to this present moment has got you here. Yes, right here- reading my blog post 😉

So what’s my secret?…

Live Each Day Like You’ve Time Traveled

If you’ve watched the film ‘About Time’ with Rachel McAdams then you might understand the title of this blog post a little better. If you haven’t watched the film, then watch it!

It’s so beautiful, it’s my idea of a perfect film infact, probably not for every one but for soppy sods like me! Let me give you a little insight, it’s basically a romantic comedy about man who has the ability to travel back to times in his life and change things in order to improve his future.

It inspired me to write this post…

Imagine right now if you could actually travel in time…

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Do you ever have those moments when you say the wrong thing at the wrong time and just wish so much that you could go back even 10 minutes to not say it. Or wish you could go back to a job interview having known all the questions you’ll be asked. Even consider dramatic situations- accidents, car crashes- what if you could go back and stop them from happening.

But us mere mortals can’t time travel, we have to live with the fact that what we do in the present moment is irreversible, it’s lost, gone forever and our future is determined by the exact moment you are living right now.

So what are you doing in your present moment right now! If your future self could time travel back to today and only today, how would you live right now differently? Would your mood be the same? Would you be arguing, huffing puffing, would you be irritated, moaning, lazy? Or would you live today differently the second time around…

Never Apologise For Being Sensitive or Emotional

I read a quote this week that really made me think…

“Never apologise for being sensitive or emotional. It’s a sign that you have a big heart, and you aren’t afraid to let other see it. Showing your emotions is a sign of strength.” Brigitte Nicole

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I have always been a very sensitive and emotional person.

I cry at anything and everything and I can sometimes really let things get to me. I find it hard to be criticised and absolutely hate being whine up.

I cried at the last episode of Friends, I cried when I dropped a cup of tea on our newly painted walls when myself and Jamie first moved in. If someone picks on a feature or something I do in a funny way I sometimes find it hard to see the funny side. I get emotional if things don’t go my way as I always want everything to be perfect. I like to write to the people I love and appreciate cards with lovely heart felt messages because it’s nice to express those feelings in written words sometimes. I show ALL my feelings in my facial expressions (just ask my friends) even when I’m looking at someone thinking “please leave me alone”, my face says it for me! This may sound like I’m an emotional wreak but after discussing with my girlfriends a lot of these things are actually quite normal.

Showing strength and dignity doesn’t mean we must hold in tears or true feelings. I used to think my sensitivity was a bad trait about myself but now I am beginning to appreciate this side to myself. Crying is a powerful and strong thing and shows as the quote says that you have a soft heart. I personally need love and affection, it’s just who I am and isn’t that a beautiful thing.

Don’t ever let anyone tell you not to cry or that you’re being stupid or to man up! Being open is beautiful, don’t let the coldness or harshness of others toughen your tender soul…

Three Steps to Take After You Have OverIndulged by Lydia McCall

We all have those days or weekends where we may eat and drink a little too much and end up feeling bloated, sluggish and guilty. This isn’t the end of the world but learning how to deal with it in a healthy way is important. I’ve turned to my lovely and intelligent friend Lydia, who is a holistic health coach, to give us some advice on what to do after you have overindulged…

I am so happy to be back doing another guest post on Lottie’s blog after my previous post where Lottie introduced me to you. Give it a read if you haven’t already. You can find it HERE.

I thought I would write about a topic that I thought you would benefit from. What to do when you have over indulged. So lets get to it.

The Battle with Counting Calories

After posting my piece “Why for Me Being Too Healthy is Unhealthy”, I got an overwhelming response from beautiful young woman who are possibly struggling with a balanced lifestyle, who said they were grateful for my honesty and sharing my lifestyle now has really inspired them. I firstly want to thank anyone who reached out to me as it always make my day hearing from my readers.

This post again is a personal and honest one and it touches the issue calorie counting, something I know some of my readers and I’m sure a lot of people feel confused about. I was confused, I am confused, we will forever be confused in my eyes hehe. But again my approach, as always comes down to moderation, balance and a healthy happy mind!

I’ve gone through stages of counting every single calorie I consume, to vaguely trying to figure out numbers in my head to then not giving a crap. Now, I know a lot of people and me included to a certain extent would say counting calories is extreme, restrictive and not necessary and to be honest it is pretty hell. Trying to work out how many calories is in your homemade salad down do the drizzle of balsamic glaze is rather stressful to say the least but I’ve been there. I’ve weighted nuts! Even after knowing that a small handful is roughly around 25g, you still have to bloody go and weight them every single day! Boring and NOT healthy for the mind in my eyes.

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When I went through stages of calorie counting it was not very fun, did not promote my wellbeing and left me feeling stressed to say the least BUT I was in control. And this need for control is the underlying issue which then perhaps becomes the fear of not knowing, hense the weighing of those bloody nuts…..